Let's talk about establishing balance in your life...
We have so many things to take care of, and people counting on us. But we have to remember we have to take care of ourselves too, in fact we have to take care of ourselves first!
I can't remember how old I was when I realized if I didn't take care of myself, that nobody else was going to either. They can't! Nobody can take care of you like you can.
We have to rely on ourselves, we have to be #1
If you're not healthy how will you take care of your spouse?
How will you take care of your children?
If you're not well, how will you go to work or take care of your home?
How can you be a good sibling, child or friend?
Our lives are full, and we have to manage each of our life categories every day: career, finance, health, relationships, and physical and spiritual development.
It's all about balance.
If you spend all your time at work and making money, your career and finance may be in good shape. What good does money in the bank, a nice car and a nice house matter if you're unhealthy? You may neglect your relationships to the point that you have no one to share it with. Perhaps you've neglected your relationship with God and with yourself. When was the last time you spent time thinking about what's important to you and what you really want out of life? It matters!
It's all about balance.
If you spend all your time working out and taking care of your kids then your health and your relationship with your kids might be good but what about the relationship to your spouse? What about your personal development? What about that class that you always wanted to take, or the hobby that you plan to start? What about your rising credit card debt, because you're charging everything trying to keep the kids happy? It isn’t good for us.
It's all about balance.
Loving yourself is nurturing all parts of your life.
Loving yourself means caring for yourself.
Loving yourself means being honest with yourself.
We spend so much time trying to make others happy that sometimes we actually neglect ourselves. Please don't fall into that trap. If you have already, make your way out. Today is a perfect day to start living in balance.
Spend some time setting your goals. I am not talking about goals of what to buy and where to go, but also who you want to become. Who are you really? What do YOU want, for you? What does the best version of you look like? Where do you live? What do you wear? Who are you with? Let your heart, you true self make the goals. Then make your decisions based on that. Now you can ask yourself, does this bring me closer to my goal or further away? So now, when you're getting ready to do something, if it aligns with your purpose, aligns with your true self, and it’s in alignment with your goals, then go for it. If not, then readjust the plan until it fits in with the new identity. I know this may be very uncomfortable at first. It may help to journal it out. Put your feels out on paper. Keep it where no one will see it so you can free to let it all out!
It is important to remember your why. Why do you want a better job or a certain amount of money in the bank? Why do you want a bigger house? Why do you want to take that trip to Europe? Make sure these goals align with your true self. Identity based goals for the real you. Be true to yourself. Love you!
Loving yourself is making sure that the things you're working for are the things that you really want in life. How will you know if you don't make a commitment to setting the proper goals?
You can find the higher goal setting process right here on this site. It takes time it takes soul searching; you’ve got to spill your guts to yourself. You are worth it. And yes, it takes time to do the process correctly. But the time will go by, no matter how you spend it. So, why not take the time and spend it on something life changing?
I highly suggest, before the goal setting, you do the purpose exercise. It is right here on my site as well. If you do it electronically and send it to me I will get it back to you within a day or two and then as you work on your goals you can make sure that they align to your purpose.
We are always focused on outcome-based goals. So this will be different for you. Take your time and do each step. I use Bill Cortright’s Higher goal Setting process and this is identity-based goal setting. This goal setting process can really change your life. Please see my post on Outcome vs Identity Based Goals so you can see the difference.
Live every day on purpose,
Peggy Romero